TRUST : the priceless vase

pecah kaca pecah gelas

sudah baca harap balas.

Begitulah bunyinya bait-bait yang selalu kita tulis di kad-kad raya zaman muda-muda dulu. Bosan betul zaman sekarang orang dah tak berapa bagi lagi kad raya ni. Sia-sia je berlari tengok peti surat bila posmen datang, dan kad raya yang tiba hanyalah dari kedai cermin mata opah. haha. kedai cermin mata aku tak bagi kad raya, sekali sekala dia bagi hadiah raya je.

"Nice to see, nice too hold ; once broken considered SOLD!"

ini pulak selalu aku tengok dekat kedai-kedai seperti Hot Market.. Hinode ( ala-ala shu hilu kelas tiga). Tapi last i check, kat pekan tanjung rambutan pun ada kedai macam tu yang have REALLY great stuff EXTREMELY CHEAP. i wonder kalau kedai tu masih ada pun. okey-okey...bertenang. So, selalu lah aku dapat warning untuk berhati-hati bila masuk ke kedai macam tu kan, because I'm pretty clumsy. So far di Malaysia tak pernah pecahkan barang lagi, tapi kat Safeway irbid pernah... habis aku kena beli scented candle balang besar.. T.T alhamdulillah la boleh jugak dibakar lilin yang ada tu.

Pendek katanya, kaca ni memang kita biasanya jaga elok-elok. Dulu aku letak jugak glass chess buat perhiasan, lepas tu simpan aje lah... berhabuk susah nak lap nanti.. (btw, now that i mention it,jangan hadiahkan aku glass chess lagi sebab i have two of the already - poyo!) Kalau my mom, mangkuk-mangkuk yang cantik biasanya guna on special occasion saja. Kalau cucu-cucu balik kampung, simpaaaaan. Bukan apa, kalau pecah memang lah sayang, dan lebih penting lagi, kalau pecah nanti terluka lah, berdarah lah. 

bohemian.

Dengan tema KACA kita pada hari ini, aku nak kaitkan dengan kepercayaan. Marilah kita berkongsi sedikit berkenaan horizontal relationship malam ni. Kalau dalam buku 7 habits, ada satu bab didedikasikan untuk "relationship bank account". Sedar tak sedar, sebenarnya membina rapport yang baik dengan manusia di sekeliling kita ni adalah sesuatu yang essential. Setiap good values yang kita imply, will be deposited into the account, and sebaliknya will be considered as withdrawal. and with every single person we encounter, we have a separate account. untuk lebih lanjut boleh baca sendiri or visit website ini .

So today we're going to talk about TRUST. Kepercayaan. Lately alhamdulillah I was given the chance to widen my horizon dan mendapat kenalan-kenalan baru yang di luar kepompong sedia ada, and I have seen so many new things that has never even occurred to me before. Of course I'm even more thrilled to find more new kenalan kan. Kenalan lah, sebab kawan kita kena memilih. :-) And besides reading, going places (which I don't really do) and getting to know more people is really good for you .

One of the things that I learnt is that , Trust is just like a glass vase. Once shattered you might be lucky to be able to put the pieces back together with glue, but you can still see the crack here and there. 

Contohnya macam pasu kat bawah ni. walaupun nampak cantik dan berseni dia tampal macam tu, retaknya tetap nampak. dan nak pegang mestilah kita seriau ataupun nervous, buatnye terpecah, habis luka meninggalkan parut. tak gitu? nak-nak pulak kalau kita simpan balang scented candle tu dan pernah luka sekali-dua, memang terus kita buang ajelah, dah tak selamat kan..

what I'm saying is, (tak misteri betul sebab dah mention kan) trust is something you gain. when you start a relationship with a friend, your colleague, your superior or even your significant other, it's not fair to expect the mutual trust to simply be established in the middle of no where. It takes time and a lot of assessment. KECUALI ibubapa dan anak-anak, memang kepercayaan tu sejak azali lagi. Cuma by time it deteriorates sebab kejap kau ponteng sekolah lah, tak pegi mengaji lah, korek tabung ke. haha. Lahir-lahir memang ada mutual trust, sebab tu selalu dalam drama kita tengok mak-mak susah nak percaya anak dia buat jahat.

what happens next after you broke the vase?

kena marah la apa lagi....! you either leave it like that or you put the pieces back together, not to forget the cracks are still visible. so let's be fair. regardless of betapa mahal or betapa cantik pun the vase use to be, it would still be an eyesore, and perhaps dangerous dan mungkin tak berfungsi like it used to be. forgive those people around you, whom you've had broken their trust when they start being cautious and maybe slightly prejudice towards you. as for me personally, it takes a lot longer than i thought to re-establish trust once people have broken them. 

and we have to know that when people say they forgive, they don't usually forget, sebab kita orang beriman tak sewajarnya kena sengat dua kali atau jatuh ke lubang yang sama dua kali. I don't believe there should only be a second chance once people have proven to change and make themselves better, sebab kadang-kadang bukan orang tu sengaja pun nak buat salah tu, but bear in mind, kena berjaga-jaga. and do forgive people.there's nothing wrong about forgiving. Allah is al-Ghaffar, the one who forgives again and again and again. 

SO, pasu-pasu yang masih tak terpecah, jangan kita pecahkan, yang sedia pecah kalau belum di glue, kita glue kan, dan terima seadanya, kita dah pecahkan pasu mahal, memang sampai bila pun orang akan ingat. 

p/s : alhamdulillah setakat banyak-banyak dah pinggan mangkuk aku terpecahkan , tak pernah kena ungkit lagi, mungkin sebab murah je. hehe